February 2010

           When we love someone we can use the lessons from our Christianity to keep our relationship strong.  As Christians, we should be better than average and we must have higher ideals.  During this month of “love”, let us look at the ideals set forth in Scripture.
                The first thing to remember is that selfishness is out.  Looking out for “Number One” may be human nature but when we become in tune with the spiritual realm concern for others is foremost.  1 Corinthians 13:4-5 ”Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude.  It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful.”
                The second requirement for a loving relationship with someone is that defensiveness is out.  Being reactionary is sinful!  “Never pay back evil for evil to anyone” (Romans 12:7).  Remember that an eye for an eye doesn’t restore sight.  It simply blinds two individuals.  1 Peter 3:8-9 states “Let all be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit.”  Yes, it’s normal to be defensive and lash back at someone.  Nevertheless, as Christians, we must be different.  
                The third requirement for a loving relationship is that mediocrity is out.  Laziness in a relationship is a constant temptation!  Paul tells us to be devoted..;. not lagging behind in diligence, fervent in spirit!(Romans 12:10-11)  The biggest destroyers of a loving relationship are attitudes that lead to complacency.  Would you want to stay with someone with a half-hearted devotion to you?  Excellence in our caring, keeping motivated to “win our love one over” will bring about a lasting and loving life together. 

Sincerely,
Rev. Ed Arbogast, Jr.